Does Grieving Every End?

Does grieving ever end?

The majority of us have experienced a death of a love one. There might have been a death or more that just left us in a state of desolation that we began to believe it would haunt us forever. The wounds continue to seep throughout the years bleeding us dry. Our efforts of closing these wounds have never worked. They only have left us into a deeper void of lack. Eventually, we might not speak of our dismay to others, usually because the world appear to close its’ door to us. Our grieving becomes boxed in, and we show the world a smiling face. We become frozen in our fear of this grieving, and doubting our own sanity. In the end the loneness we felt from the beginning has intensified. Is there any hope that life can become joyful again? Yes there is and it will.

Grieving ends when we begin living in the present time fully. We can experience so many blessings, marriages, children being born, a new career just to mention a few, but if we are not totally emotionally and mentally in the present, we cannot feel completely. We block the happiness, as we reached in our past to hook on to that love one. Only you can take that anchor you placed in the past and put it firmly into the now. Only you can embrace what was, and be brave enough to take that love and send it forward. You are still a complete person. The one(s) you lost are still a part of you. It is your duty to stay-in-the-here –and –now. You have to take the first step to regain your life. Yes, you might make mistakes, but at least you are living. You are putting effort into coming back into your current world, with those who are currently living. This is where you are needed, the dead do not need you any more, but the living do. If you fall down, do not be afraid, pick yourself up and point in the direction of now.

Death in many cultures is seen as a rebirth. There are many concept of this, which I will not cover here. In the Tarot Deck, Death is also considered rebirth. The person dies and is reborn into a spirit body, perhaps. They take the love you gave them forward in their new spirit world. It does not matter if a love one did not have the opportunity to tell them they loved them, prior to their passing. That love is felt, and words or none will not diminish it. They go forth carrying your love, as they are welcome by those who already have died. Us who are left behind in the physical world, will also experience a rebirth. We will remember their love and it stays safely in our heart forever. Our rebirth is to carry that love forward to give to others. Neither the dead or living are to remain stuck, though it might take a process to help them move on, but eventually they do, and so do we. Embrace life is the message of rebirth. Embrace those who are around you and those you will meet. It is when we hold tight to our present, do we understand and experiences fully love. If we cannot do this, we will always being trying to feed the darkness within with synthetic love.

All of the above I have experienced. Next week marks my husband’s death anniversary. Six years seems like a minute at times and other times a life time. I am now in the present time. I am able to cherish what is happening in the moment. I know everyday, he is a part of me, and he is on an adventure, as am I. His is in the spirit world and mine is here with the living. Grieving does stop and the pain dissipates, leaving us with the joy of living. Welcome to the world of the living. It is waiting for you. Embrace life and love and always remember you are already whole